Updated: Jun 15
Women love being showered with compliments and gifts; we enjoy dates and surprises too. We like a good romance movie with a "happily ever after" ending. However, what most fairy tale movies fail to show us, is that you, men, like all of those things as well.
As a woman, I feel we are catered to in the romance department. So many of you men are taught to be strong and dominant; to not be weak. But what we as women forget is that yes, ya'll portray yourselves as powerful on the outside, but on the inside you hurt too.
On the inside you long to be loved, wanted, and appreciated. It's easy for us, women, to forget about your needs at times because we are too focused on our own.
I've found that you men listen better when you're happier. This isn't a scientific fact(that I'm aware of) however, I doubt if I'm wrong.
So what can we women do to make our men happier?
We can to take our man out on dates and foot the bill from time to time. We can give him his own "Valentine's Day". (Beyonce was onto something when she sang "Cater to You"). I'm not saying be over-the-top, or extra mushy. I'm saying leave a "Have a Good Morning "note on his car if you leave for work before him. Remind him of just how sexy he is to you on any old random day. Rub his back if he's had a long, stressful day at work.
Sometimes we have to put our stresses, wants, and needs aside for a day to make sure our man is taken care of. Men appreciate the small things and will love you better...love is a two-way street. "Treat others how you want to be treated" didn't fall from the sky.
Take care of him and he should take care of you.
Just make sure your man is actually deserving of being treated with such a high priority. No woman would, or should want to rub a man's back who hasn't left the couch in a week because he's playing video games.
The perspective of taking care of your man is from a healthy, monogamous relationship standpoint. If a man isn't providing for you mentally, financially, emotionally, and physically, then you should re-evaluate more than whether or not your man needs a compliment. (MEN: Shame on you if you're not giving 100% but expecting it in return).
A happier man will make for a happier woman.
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