Updated: Jun 15
If you’re newly single you may be wondering how you are going to vacation without a partner.
Surely you wouldn't and couldn't do this by yourself? No way! *gasps*
From going to different cities, different states, or even internationally (if you’re brave), you can, and you should travel at least once by yourself.
It doesn't mean you’re lonely or alone to travel by yourself. It’s not boring. It's actually stress-relieving.
It’s “ME” time. Time for learning to love your own company.
Traveling solo affords you the time to properly document and reflect on your travels.
Spontaneity can be a vital part of solo travel and can be a sense of freedom. It allows you the ability to make choices that suit you, not a companion.
Traveling solo gives you the freedom to choose your schedule, go where you want and with who you want.
With freedom comes flexibility. If you arrive at an event and really don’t enjoy it, you can just move on. Arrive somewhere and absolutely love it? Stay longer and revise your other plans.
Just make sure you have fun!
I take the train to Chicago solo at least 3 times a year. From where I live it’s about a 4-hour train ride one-way. I enjoy the scenery while on the train, watching the sunrise on the way there and the sunset on the way home. I listen to a podcast and music, or break out a book I haven't found time to read. Sometimes I’ll catch up on some much-needed rest.
Each visit I eat at a new place, see a new tourist attraction, and find a new adventure. Once, it was a boat ride on the lake to see the skyline of Chicago; another day it was a Beach Day (yes, Chicago has beaches). I’ve visited most of the main tourist attractions such as the Cloud aka Bean, Willis Tower formerly Sears tower, Navy Pier, Shedd Aquarium etc. I love traveling with my friends, family and significant other (when I have one), but I also truly enjoy traveling alone.
It allows me to face my fears, and become comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s cliche, but "You only live once", so I try to make the most of it!
I do realize safety is a big concern for most solo travelers. Here are a few things that I do before and during any solo trip:
Research and plan ahead. Know where you're going, how you're going to get there, and what areas are safe.
Be aware of surroundings. Avoid alleys; avoid walking at night especially alone.
Carry pepper spray or a pocket knife.
Go on train cars with other people on it; try not to go on it at night.
Fit in not stand out....no flashy jewelry, or looks of confusion, always look confident even if you are lost.
Never identify to others that you are alone.
Keep headphones/earbuds on low, or keep only one earbud in to be able to still hear your surroundings.
Try not to carry a purse, if you do, make it a small wallet that can fit in your pocket, or a cross body purse.
Bring an emergency credit card.
Have hard copies of important telephone numbers.
Leave the television on in your room when you leave and hang the "do not disturb" sign on the door if you are staying at a hotel.
Don't keep money and credit cards in one place (a tampon box works wonders as a hiding spot, get creative).
Most importantly, use common sense and trust your instincts. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
We hear about the negative things that happen in the world more than the good things. Chances are, if you're not careless, you'll have a SAFE and fun trip.
Traveling without a partner can be refreshing, rejuvenating, and relaxing.
Enjoy your new freedom. Embrace it!
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